Your World Appears The Way You See It

When we look ourselves in the mirror, we see the eyes which see the world. Those eyes resemble the our state of mind.

“When I am happy, I see the happiness in others. When I am depressed, I notice that people’s eyes look sad. When I am weary, I see the world as boring and unattractive”- Steve Chandler

Everyone has sorrows in their life. An optimistic person sees the world as an oppurtunity while a pessimist sees it as nothing but trash and as the cause for his/her  sorrow and troubles. The real problem does not come for the problem itself. The real problem comes from our incapacity to handle the consequences of the problem. Once if you are able to reach a solution for the problem, you can get rid of it. But what counts the most are the enduring moments, the moments of patience and perseverance that you face while finding the solution for the prolem. While some think positively and find a solution, others reach to dangerous conclusions and take grievous decisions.

For ex, consider an exam.When a student thinks of an exam fifteen days ahead of the day of the exam, he/she remains hassle-free but on the day before it, tension starts gripping him/her. The problem is not with writing the exam but it comes from its consequences. He/she starts thinking of many questions like ‘What should I tell my parents?’, ‘What will happen if I get less marks?’, ‘What if everyone pass and I fail in the exam?’ etc. A number of questions start echoing in their mind but they find no answers. The fitting consequence of an exam is its result. Tension grips them and few resort themselves to stupid and unhealthy decisions like commiting suicides etc.

Why do they do so? They do because they are not ready to face the consequences that come with the result. For a moment, they forget to realise that life provides a second oppurtunity to them. A decision in haste can cost a lot to their family and friends. If he/she can has guts to think of suicides, then why not about answering to their problems?

‘HAVE GUTS TO FACE YOUR PROBLEMS. SHOW THEM YOUR METTLE AND WHAT YOU CAN. SHOW THEM THAT YOUR MORE THAN A PIECE OF FLESH. SHOW THEM THATYOUR LIKE A ROCK UNAFFECTED BY VAGARIES OF THE NATURE, SHOW THEM YOUR LIKE A RIVER THAT NEVER GETS TIRED OF ITS FLOW, SHOW THEM THAT YOUR LIKE A WAVE THAT  NEVER CEASES ITS MOTION DESPITE HURDLES. ‘

The world respects and honours the person who goes above his problems, even in the most disadvantageous position. Put your fullest effort in what you do and believe yourself. The self-confidence will give us the courage to deal with the circumstances. If you want to see yourself as a successful person in the future , you must be strong and ambitious in the present, as this attitude of yours will make you even more stronger in the future.You may not crush the moutains single-handed with your strength but you can truly handle your problems with your might, patience and will-power.

“No one is in control of your happiness but you ; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to  change.”

Believe in yourself

Very often, when we are faced with a difficult situation, we tend to turn to those we consider our closest friends for advice.

We weigh their words and very often act on them too. But I do believe that NOBODY is really 'qualified' to tell YOU, what will work and what will not work in YOUR situation. (I am obviously not talking about advice  on a particular skill set required to do a specific task)

The fact is nobody, (not your parents, not your best friend, not even your soul mate) is going to really understand what YOU, as an individual are going through. They are always going to tell you what they presume will work or not work, for your greater good.

But they truly aren't experiencing the exact same emotions that you are. They may say they understand and in fact they may believe that completely do, but truly they will never get it. Your dreams, your pain, your hopes, your emotions are truly yours alone.

Am I saying that you should never ask for advice? NO. We have much to learn from older folks who might have gone through a similar situation. Age does have its advantages after all.

But I think the best way would be to follow what your inner voice tells you. Spend some time alone. Write down what is bothering you. I have discovered that writing in a journal is truly a great way to give direction and expression to that inner voice of yours which often gets drowned.

Believe in yourself. You are definitely more awesome that you think. Yes, you can do it,
All you have to do is believe.

And take that one step at a time.

Always remember, the journey of a thousand miles begins with that single step. And the hour is always darkest just before dawn.

JUSTIFY YOUR LIVING

LIFE KEEPS SMACKING WITH SURPRISES. IT SOMETIMES PACKS US WITH FRIENDS, LOVE AND HAPPINESS BUT EMPTIES THEM WHEN WE NEED THEM THE MOST. IT’S NO BIG DEAL. NOT THAT WE CANNT LIVE WITHOUT THEM, BUT OUR ADDICTION TOWARDS PLEASURES MAKES US CRAVE FOR THEM. FOR A LAYMAN IT MAY APPEAR LIKE LIFE IS SNACTHING HIS HAPPINESS AND PLAYING WITH IT , BUT SURVIVERS TAKE IT ON THE OTHER WAY. THEY THINK THAT LIFE IS STRENGTHENING THEIR GRIP BY PUTTING THEM IN AWKWARD SITUATIONS AND THEY TAKE IT AS A OPPURTUNITY TO FIGHT BACK AT LIFE WITH A TOUGHER INSTINCT. AND THEY DO WELL. IT’S SAID THAT EVEN A DIAMOND CANNT SPARKLE WITHOUT RIGOROUS POLISHING. ONLY A HUGE SEASTORM CAN MAKE A SAILOR, HOW CAN LIFE BE SPARED FROM IT.

PEOPLE SAY THAT LIFE HAS NEVER BEEN JUSTIFIED FOR THEM BUT THEY DONT UNDERSTAND THAT LIFE NEVER DOES JUSTICE WITH ANYONE.IT SENDS US DIFFICULTIES TO FIGHTBACK AND TOUGHEN OURSELVES NOT TO GIVEUP AND START CRYING OVER LIFES MENANCES. ITS OUR FAULTS THAT WE CANT COPE WITH OUR FAILURES. EVERY ROAD TO OUR DESTINATION WILL OFFER US WITH PROBLEMS. IT WILL BE OUR CHOICE WHETHER TO STRUGGLE OR GIVE UP. HOW CAN WE SIMPLY CHOOSE THE EASIEST ALTERNATIVE AND BLAME OUR FATES. WOOERS CAN’T BE WINNERS. THAY WILL KEEP ON CRYING ON EVERY OPPURTUNITY THAT LIFE SENDS THEIR WAY, THINKING IT TO BE ANOTHER SET BACK AND IN THIS COURSE, THEY PASS THEIR ENTIRE LIFE, JUST WAITING FOR HAPPINESS TO COME THEIR FEET. GOD PROVIDES GRAINS TO EVERY BIRD BUT CERTAINLY DOESNT PUT IN THEIR NEST, SIMILARLY LIFE PROVIDES EVERYONE WITH OPPURTUNITY BUT IN THE FORM OF DIFFICULTY.

THIS LIFE IS THE MOST VALUABLE POSSESTION FOR EVERY INDIVIDUAL, SO WORTH IT..

STATUS UPDATE

The world according to facebook founder Mark zukenberg, is defined by your status update.and who the hell remembers yesterdays update??Nevertheless here is my pick of the events of 2k11,which made a difference in the lives of the young and facebooked.

                India against corruption’s crusade in august last year,which galvanised young people across the country like never before. They skipped work and bunked colleges to join the protests on the ground,to carry candles and placards in support of the movement.The movement was about national interest. And yet ,they plunged into it both online and offline .A daily drama played out in 140 characters,and it was covered live,like a hot new reality show by excitable television anchors.

Four months later, it all appears to a distant dream, a part of “history”. The cache has been cleared of idealistic chatter. Conversation in the canteen is back to cricket, bollywood and girls.

Speaking of cricket, India’s win over sri lanka in the world cup cricket was possibly the proudest moment of the year for any citizen of India. But even more for the youth, who have absolutely no recollection of the 1983 world cup victory.

                                                                The trouble is the performance of team India since that victory. Young India still loves Dhoni but rather spent its time watching F1 and Manchester united.F1 bole toh ,2011 was also the year that India “arrived”, with the Buddha international circuit at Greater Noida. It was thrilling to know that the gods of racing were descending on our soil.

                                                                                             

                                With humanity also comes tragedy twenty –two year old Malini Murmur, a first yea student at IIM- Bangalore,commiteed suicide in September after being humiliated on face book by her boyfriend.

                                The peril of living your life 24x7 online is now vividly reflected in us.Now youth is all about extremes-of passion, of depression, of ascension.

                                                To pick out any more “events” of 2011 which defined or changed youth is kind of irrelevant. Yes, Steve jobs died, but life must go on. The future is ours and what we make of it.

ITZZ TIME 4 NEW YEAR RESOLUTION

New Year's resolutions are back again. Time to make more promises to yourself and then break them within a month, right?

Every New Year's Eve millions of people make New Year's resolutions…then January happens. Just one week into January, many ppl New Year's resolutions are nothing more than a memory. The prospect for keeping a resolution  throughout the year are even more bleak.By the time we ring in 2013, 90 percent of New Year's resolutions will have been broken. 

There are many reasons why resolutions are broken, some major reasons are:-

•       We rely on motivation only. –Many ppl wishes 4 motivation 4rm frnds and family and lag self confidence. 

•         We only think big. - ppl only think in large terms that are often unrealistic – like losing lots of weight or making a major life change.

•     lack of determination -  ppl lack courage to face troubles and hardships.

The solution to avoid becoming a part of the failed New Year's resolution club isn't difficult .  If ppl wish 2 fulfill their resolution they can try the steps below,hope this might help you:-

•         Prioritize what you want to accomplish -  Pick your top three goals and focus on them

•          Reduce information overload -Be selective in what information you pay attention to in order to maximize time management.

•        Learn to say yes – face the troubles confidently  

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•        Don’t lose hope- hav patience, never lose heart.

Wish u advance HAPPY NEW YEAR 2012 and tak a proper "NEW YEAR RESOLUTION" 

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RADIATORS AND DRAINS

Frnds maybe you have all heard of this one before or may be haven't. I am nt talking about radiators and drains! not the variety of heat exchangers designed to transfer thermal energy from one medium to another for the purpose of cooling and heating. Nor the one that is an exit point for waste water.  I am talking abt types of people.

      I remember reading somewhere that v can classify people into 'radiators' and 'drains'. Radiators fill us with energy. We look forward interacting them. They leave us feeling really good about our self, and whenever you think of them, we look forward meeting them next. They r fun to be with, positive and full of life.They needn't necessarily be our frnds. They can be anyone around us. the only parameter for people to be classified as radiators is that when v finish interacting with them, we feel happy, positive and recharged.  

                Drains on the other hand, leave us feeling down. They may not say anything unpleasant but after talking to them we feel totally drained out. We r vaguely dissatisfied bt unable to put a reason to it. Drains might have talked very politely and pleasantly with us, but after interacting with them, we feel somewhat inadequate. Drains are not necessarily people whom v hate. they could be just anyone who leaves us feeling inadequate in a way that cannot be described. They can be also called as emotional vampires.

           Life is so short and so fleeting. It is entirely up to us to enjoy each moment. There will of course be moments when v feel sad, hopeless and unhappy. When that happens, it is time to pick up the phone and call the best radiator you know.

FRIENDSHIP INESTIMABLE RELATIONSHIP

Friends r inevitable part of lyf. There is a nice saying ,"every one has a best friend but only lucky ones r able to be in touch with them for their lyf time.There is no relationship in this world greater than friendship. we understand its importance after we become far apart from our dear ones. We miss the times we spend together, the jokes v share together,the comments which v pass on each other, the meals which v had together, the fun v had in malls,beaches,grounds etc. Those were the most beautiful moments of life which are hard to get back again. So i urge each and every reader pls love ur friends and pray to be in touch with ur friends. dedicated to all my dear friends who had given me some wonderful experiences and blossom my life with happiness....